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Overcoming Fear

What stands in your way when you’re starting a project?

I keep saying it over and over again, I’m a project starter, completing a project on the other hand, not my forte. One thing I’ve left out on this, is the fact that I really, really, {REALLY!} struggle with getting started at times. There have been so many projects that have been outside of my comfort zone, that I’ve just hesitated getting moving.

I’ve been terrified of tools: I don’t know many women who can look at all the tools and say “Give it to me, I can do it”. For me, I always want to, but I want to try it out on simple things that don’t really matter, rather than the projects that I want to get done. The first time I saw a jigsaw, I was terrified, I knew I wouldn’t be able to follow a straight line, it just moved so fast. But like I said in my last post, it only moves as fast as you push it! And you can always sand down the little bits that may not be perfect. What was even more terrifying to me, was an Oscillating tool. No idea right? Imagine holding a really shaky, mini saw that cuts through things when you can barely tell it’s moving. How about using a grinder to cut tile?

What do I do? I’ll try it out on something that doesn’t matter. Why not? Is there anything that boosts your confidence more than practice?

I’ve been terrified of scope: when we first looked at our kitchen I knew exactly what I wanted to do, and how to do it, but the overall scope of the project just scared the crap out of me! I tried to do everything at once, and it was overwhelming and really made me postpone starting. What did I do? I broke it down into smaller pieces. We focused on pulling down some walls before we worried about planning the cabinetry. We focused on flooring installation, before cabinets arrived. We really just took our time and didn’t feel the pressure. Any big project really just means it’s a lot of smaller pieces tricking you into being scared! Make a list and tackle it one by one.

I’ve been terrified of failure: You’re lying to me, if you are saying this has never crossed your mind, and I’m calling you on it! Especially early on, you’re worried that those stereotypes may be right, or that you may screw something up and it wont work out as planned. A screw up can almost always be re-done. And if you’re doing something that is that out of reach, and you’re really not sure if you can do, please, please, please, DON’T DO IT. Ask for help. I’ve been terrified to ask for help in the past, but someone who knows what they’re doing is the most valuable resource you can have. Dave’s friend Jeremy has been around for so many of our major projects, not only to motivate Dave, but also because he’s the brain behind the operation! He keeps us on track, and he shows us what to do, if ever we’re in doubt.

Being able to look forward to the next project shouldn’t be intimidating. It should be the most exciting part of the project. It’s what now motivates me to make list after list of what I want to do, and even how I’m going to tackle it.

I think this applies to life in general, you shouldn’t be ashamed if you don’t know everything. You should feel comfortable asking for help, and taking some risks in order to reap some rewards, and gain some knowledge. Too often we just assume we’re not able to complete a task, and instead of challenging, we just cave and pass it off to someone else.

What projects have stumped you? How do you get over the fear and get into the motivation to make it happen?

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